{"id":9112,"date":"2022-05-25T10:50:55","date_gmt":"2022-05-25T15:50:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/?p=9112"},"modified":"2022-05-25T11:59:58","modified_gmt":"2022-05-25T16:59:58","slug":"how-to-talk-to-your-child-when-bad-things-happen-a-message-from-bisds-counseling-services-team","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/how-to-talk-to-your-child-when-bad-things-happen-a-message-from-bisds-counseling-services-team\/","title":{"rendered":"How to talk to your child when bad things happen:\u00a0 A Message from BISD\u2019s Counseling Services Team\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth.jpg\" alt=\"Holding Hands\" class=\"wp-image-9115\" width=\"378\" height=\"252\" srcset=\"https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth.jpg 1500w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-450x300.jpg 450w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-760x507.jpg 760w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-518x345.jpg 518w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-250x166.jpg 250w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-82x55.jpg 82w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/blog.birdvilleschools.net\/district\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/05\/mentalhealth-550x367.jpg 550w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 378px) 100vw, 378px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Parents often wonder how to talk to their children when bad things happen and how much they should say. Having hard conversations is challenging, however, by having these difficult conversations we, as parents, ensure our children are hearing the correct message. Often children will hear stories from friends and see things on social media which allow them to create stories or worst-case scenarios in their heads. Your child will hear the news from someone, and it is important for parents to share their voice and reassurance, thus creating opportunities for deeper conversations and connections within the family.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Birdville ISD Counseling Services Department recommends the following tips to help parents talk to their children about when bad things happen:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Listen to your child\u2019s fears and concerns.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li>This is big news and big news may have big emotions. Validate those emotions. It is ok to ask how they feel about what they have heard.&nbsp;<\/li><li>It is important for them to feel safe. Reassure your child that his\/her teachers and campus leaders are doing everything to keep them safe and that is why their schools have practice drills, so they can be prepared.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li>Limit exposure to television and news.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Be honest with your child(ren). Share as much information as is developmentally appropriate. For younger children, keep the message simple with less detail. With your older children, it is okay to share more details, address their feelings, and allow them to ask questions.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Keep your routines as normal as possible and spend more time together as a family.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Revisit this conversation after two or three days.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Ask: How are you feeling? Do you have any new or different thoughts? Have you had any bad dreams or new fears?&nbsp;<\/li><li>Look for changes in their sleep, play, other indicators, or increased anxiety.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>It is normal to have worries and be uncomfortable. Again, this is big news and there may be many feelings attached. Reassure your child that he or she can come to you at any time with any questions. You want to have open communication with your child so you can ensure they are receiving reliable information and answers.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you have any concerns regarding your child\u2019s behavior, please feel free to reach out to your campus counselors or the counseling services department. Even though the school year is ending, Birdville ISD is still available to provide resources and support.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additional Resources:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.schoolcrisiscenter.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Guidelines-Talking-to-Kids-About-Attacks-Two-Sided-Onesheet-Format.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.schoolcrisiscenter.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Guidelines-Talking-to-Kids-About-Attacks-Two-Sided-Onesheet-Format.pdf<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nctsn.org%2Fresources%2Fparent-guidelines-helping-youth-after-recent-shooting&amp;data=05%7C01%7Cdharrell%40esc11.net%7Ce668970f53fc472ae12008da3dcbd1e8%7Cd6d4848c91b54e18a7bd22747454a144%7C0%7C0%7C637890243432733941%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=xM0P5bXoLq%2F%2FwDTPrPCRdYzwwuD79r%2FgdqeQPYNN6n8%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.nctsn.org\/resources\/parent-guidelines-helping-youth-after-recent-shooting<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nctsn.org%2Fresources%2Fassisting-parents-caregivers-in-coping-with-collective-traumas&amp;data=05%7C01%7Cdharrell%40esc11.net%7Ce668970f53fc472ae12008da3dcbd1e8%7Cd6d4848c91b54e18a7bd22747454a144%7C0%7C0%7C637890243432733941%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=yU8eXChtaxIZygMRQu%2F7N1zMSg5n5UizlkDYqg%2FT6%2FU%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.nctsn.org\/resources\/assisting-parents-caregivers-in-coping-with-collective-traumas<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nctsn.org%2Fsites%2Fdefault%2Ffiles%2Fresources%2Ffact-sheet%2Ffor_teens_coping_after_mass_violence.pdf&amp;data=05%7C01%7Cdharrell%40esc11.net%7Ce668970f53fc472ae12008da3dcbd1e8%7Cd6d4848c91b54e18a7bd22747454a144%7C0%7C0%7C637890243432733941%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=tSoqgf88i6oN%2BpDIU3t6QwB4kIitrJy5ETGo8br8zZ4%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.nctsn.org\/sites\/default\/files\/resources\/fact-sheet\/for_teens_coping_after_mass_violence.pdf<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-medium-font-size\"><strong>C\u00f3mo hablar con su hijo cuando suceden cosas malas: un mensaje del equipo de servicios de asesoramiento de BISD<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Los padres a menudo se preguntan c\u00f3mo hablar con sus hijos cuando suceden cosas malas y cu\u00e1nto deben decir. Tener conversaciones dif\u00edciles es un desaf\u00edo, sin embargo, al tener estas conversaciones dif\u00edciles, nosotros, como padres, nos aseguramos de que nuestros hijos escuchen el mensaje correcto. A menudo, los ni\u00f1os escuchar\u00e1n historias de amigos y ver\u00e1n cosas en las redes sociales que les permitir\u00e1n crear historias o los peores escenarios en sus cabezas. Su hijo escuchar\u00e1 las noticias de alguien, y es importante que los padres compartan su voz y tranquilidad, creando as\u00ed oportunidades para conversaciones y conexiones m\u00e1s profundas dentro de la familia.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>El Departamento de Servicios de Consejer\u00eda de Birdville ISD recomienda los siguientes consejos para ayudar a los padres a hablar con sus hijos sobre cu\u00e1ndo suceden cosas malas:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Escuche los temores y preocupaciones de su hijo.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Esta es una gran noticia y una gran noticia puede tener grandes emociones. Valida esas emociones. Est\u00e1 bien preguntar c\u00f3mo se sienten acerca de lo que han escuchado.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Es importante que se sientan seguros. Aseg\u00farele a su hijo que sus maestros y l\u00edderes escolares est\u00e1n haciendo todo lo posible para mantenerlos seguros y que es por eso que sus escuelas tienen simulacros de pr\u00e1ctica, para que puedan estar preparados.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Limite la exposici\u00f3n a la televisi\u00f3n y las noticias.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Sea honesto con su(s) hijo(s). Comparta tanta informaci\u00f3n como sea apropiada para el desarrollo. Para los ni\u00f1os m\u00e1s peque\u00f1os, mantenga el mensaje simple con menos detalles. Con sus hijos mayores, est\u00e1 bien compartir m\u00e1s detalles, abordar sus sentimientos y permitirles hacer preguntas.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Mantenga sus rutinas lo m\u00e1s normal posible y pasen m\u00e1s tiempo juntos como familia.&nbsp;<\/li><li>Vuelva a revisar esta conversaci\u00f3n despu\u00e9s de dos o tres d\u00edas.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Pregunte: \u00bfC\u00f3mo te sientes? \u00bfTienes pensamientos nuevos o diferentes? \u00bfHas tenido malos sue\u00f1os o nuevos miedos?&nbsp;<\/li><li>Este atento a cambios a la hora de dormir, juego, otros indicadores o aumento de la ansiedad.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Es normal tener preocupaciones y sentirse inc\u00f3modo. Nuevamente, esta es una gran noticia y puede haber muchos sentimientos asociados. Aseg\u00farele a su hijo que \u00e9l o ella puede acudir a usted en cualquier momento con cualquier pregunta. Desee tener una comunicaci\u00f3n abierta con su hijo para asegurarse de que reciba informaci\u00f3n y respuestas confiables.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Si tiene alguna inquietud con respecto al comportamiento de su hijo, no dude en comunicarse con los consejeros de su plantel o con el departamento de servicios de consejer\u00eda. Aunque el a\u00f1o escolar est\u00e1 por terminar, Birdville ISD todav\u00eda est\u00e1 disponible para brindar recursos y apoyo.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Recursos adicionales:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.schoolcrisiscenter.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Guidelines-Talking-to-Kids-About-Attacks-Two-Sided-Onesheet-Format.pdf\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.schoolcrisiscenter.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/Guidelines-Talking-to-Kids-About-Attacks-Two-Sided-Onesheet-Format.pdf<\/a>&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nctsn.org%2Fresources%2Fparent-guidelines-helping-youth-after-recent-shooting&amp;data=05%7C01%7Cdharrell%40esc11.net%7Ce668970f53fc472ae12008da3dcbd1e8%7Cd6d4848c91b54e18a7bd22747454a144%7C0%7C0%7C637890243432733941%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=xM0P5bXoLq%2F%2FwDTPrPCRdYzwwuD79r%2FgdqeQPYNN6n8%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.nctsn.org\/resources\/parent-guidelines-helping-youth-after-recent-shooting<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nctsn.org%2Fresources%2Fassisting-parents-caregivers-in-coping-with-collective-traumas&amp;data=05%7C01%7Cdharrell%40esc11.net%7Ce668970f53fc472ae12008da3dcbd1e8%7Cd6d4848c91b54e18a7bd22747454a144%7C0%7C0%7C637890243432733941%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=yU8eXChtaxIZygMRQu%2F7N1zMSg5n5UizlkDYqg%2FT6%2FU%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.nctsn.org\/resources\/assisting-parents-caregivers-in-coping-with-collective-traumas<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li><li><a href=\"https:\/\/nam04.safelinks.protection.outlook.com\/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.nctsn.org%2Fsites%2Fdefault%2Ffiles%2Fresources%2Ffact-sheet%2Ffor_teens_coping_after_mass_violence.pdf&amp;data=05%7C01%7Cdharrell%40esc11.net%7Ce668970f53fc472ae12008da3dcbd1e8%7Cd6d4848c91b54e18a7bd22747454a144%7C0%7C0%7C637890243432733941%7CUnknown%7CTWFpbGZsb3d8eyJWIjoiMC4wLjAwMDAiLCJQIjoiV2luMzIiLCJBTiI6Ik1haWwiLCJXVCI6Mn0%3D%7C3000%7C%7C%7C&amp;sdata=tSoqgf88i6oN%2BpDIU3t6QwB4kIitrJy5ETGo8br8zZ4%3D&amp;reserved=0\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">https:\/\/www.nctsn.org\/sites\/default\/files\/resources\/fact-sheet\/for_teens_coping_after_mass_violence.pdf<\/a>&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Parents often wonder how to talk to their children when bad things happen and how much they should say. 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